I made a conscious decision early not to inject too many personal stories or my own ego (which I contend does not exist) into this blog. I had the good fortune of having an early mentor that taught me to use third-person stories even when they are first-person stories. It irks the crap out of me when people who are clearly thought leaders put themselves up on a pedestal. It completely ruins their message for me (I’m looking at you John Maxwell). So, I do my best not to sound “preachy” or like I’m the best at this stuff so you should do what I do. I’ll dispel that myth for you now. I’m not the best at this and almost certainly never will be.
I am stressed and need to use this post as an outlet for my stress. In the past three months I’ve hired 20 agents, completely revamped our new agent mentorship program, am in the process of changing our recruiting program, and have taken on a 12 month project that is both incredibly exciting and at the same time completely scares the shit out of me. When those are finished, there’s a list of stuff on both of my Do, Doing, Done boards waiting to happen. All of that is the 8-5 part of my life. I also have a busy family when I get home from work. I’m not complaining, mind you. Life is good. I’m doing what I love and loving what I do. I’m also very fortunate to have an awesome wife supporting me and helping carry some of this load despite the fact that she also works a full-time job in a supervisory capacity and has stresses of her own. Nonetheless, I am stressed. Stressed almost to the point of hitting the wall, which we’ve talked about here before.
So, I am going to take an hour or two and just write.
Over the years, whether I was stressed or just needed a boost of energy or had to be in a game time mindset, I’ve found that doing something creative helped me get there. To be honest, when I first started blogging, it was because I needed an outlet. Just like today, I would wait for the kids to go to bed, plop down on the couch and go to it. It was my massage or pedicure or round of golf or whatever people do to unwind. Doing creative work just helped clear my mind and get over whatever hump was in my way. Looking back at a lot of those posts, I probably should have just kept a diary.
When I sold new home construction, Saturday and Sunday were the big days. That’s when people came in to model homes looking to buy and I needed to have my game face on. So, I planned my weeks to where the only thing I would do on the weekends outside of selling was creating marketing pieces. I’d sit there in my model and copy and paste things into Microsoft Word from Netscape Navigator. There was some serious WordArt happening in those days. Graphic design didn’t know what hit it when I started using Power Point to make flyers. Sometimes I miss 2003. It was fun and got my creative juices flowing. When I got up to meet clients who came into the model, my brain was already working. The difference being, for those who haven’t sat in a model home, that it is easy to get bored to death during downtime, of which there is plenty.
The other thing I find myself doing when I’m stressed like this is listening/watching/reading inspirational material. I don’t know if it’s the kick in the ass I need or just the break from whatever is stressing me out, but I’ll stop and watch something like the Holstee Manifesto or some Gary Vaynerchuk or listen to Napoleon Hill or read Success Magazine. Something that gets the juices flowing and makes me feel like I’m ready to take on the world. OK, I’m not going to lie to you. Sometimes I close my door, turn on Eminem and in less than 5 minutes I’m good to go. I know it’s silly, but you can listen to whichever white rapper from Detroit you want to. Don’t judge me.
Anyway, that’s my two cents for the night. Thanks for listening. I appreciate you allowing me this outlet and I hope that you find value here. I love reading your input and comments. It keeps me going, makes me look forward to next week, and seriously adds some level of validation that not all of my ideas are completely crazy. I hope that you know what it is that takes your mind off the things that stress you out and help you push past the obstacles. If not, start writing and see where it leads you. If that doesn’t work, try painting or running or yoga or whatever you have to do to find it, but find it.